This post is the final post in a five-part series.
In my first four posts I shared the five components of the SNAIL Method of revitalizing staff morale. For this post I will offer my thoughts on the final component.
Stand up and take pride in our profession
Never pass up the opportunity to show appreciation
Acknowledge when things aren’t working and develop a new plan
Ignite a spirit of collaboration not competition
Let go of old hurts or jealousies
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.”-C.S. Lewis
Let go of old hurts and jealousies
To me, this is by far the most difficult thing to do. How are you supposed to work with people who have either let you down, or who have been downright mean and toxic? I don’t really have the answer to that one, just some thoughts.
I have encountered this too many times in my career. Either someone has betrayed a confidence, spread lies or rumors about you or a situation, stabbed you in the back, or just been plain old mean. You really have two choices; let it go, or let it eat you up. Odds are the other person is not losing any sleep over it, so why are you?
In order to keep the focus on students, and continued growth of the building, we have to let it go. We have to decide to be the bigger person, the professional. Whether you like, or trust the person, you can still learn from them.
Above all, we have to remember it’s the students that matter the most. Not just ours, but those of that colleague that hurt you. Should their students suffer because you no longer want to share ideas, projects, materials, or supplies based on what that person has done? We can’t let students be affected by squabbles between adults.
The only thing I’m finding to help with letting go is to better learn to confront the issue when it happens, or soon thereafter. It’s that sense of not being heard or having closure that makes it hard to let it go of hurts. This is still hard for me because I don’t seek out confrontation. However, if I want to promote a positive culture, I need to advocate for myself, yet be kind and professional when doing so.